Kindness and Respect

Posted by CarolSeer2014 10 years, 8 months ago to Culture
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After thinking about this last night, I've decided that I'm neither unkind, nor disrespectful, unless I feel you deserve either.

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  • Posted by $ winterwind 10 years, 8 months ago in reply to this comment.
    Oh, that's right. Somehow I think of everyone here as producers and don't look for their badges!
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  • Posted by $ winterwind 10 years, 8 months ago in reply to this comment.
    Carol, I have the same question as kh.
    As a woman who is almost always perceived as a scary angry bitch at first meetings, then often told "I don't know why I was afraid of you.", I think I deal with the same issues or events you're talking about.
    I'm concerned that you seem to be separating '''using kindness and respect" from "saying exactly what you mean" and I'd like to know if we're in the same boat.
    Feel free to PM me, of course.
    WW
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  • Posted by edweaver 10 years, 8 months ago
    IMHO, saying the truth even if it hurts when done with kindness and respect is more important than kindness & respectfulness without the truth. But then sometimes the best way to say the truth is with a 2x4 up side the head. With respect of course. Lol
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  • Posted by CarolSeer2014 10 years, 8 months ago in reply to this comment.
    And sometimes concealing your real feelings is more demeaning that revealing them. Even to the point of degrading another person's ability to be responsible for his own feelings.
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  • Posted by Solver 10 years, 8 months ago
    I agree. I choose who to give kindness and respect to. There are people out there that will be insulted or take advantage of these types of acts. Attempting to bestow kindness and respect to everyone without using your own judgement could get you hurt or worse.
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  • Posted by CarolSeer2014 10 years, 8 months ago
    Must be my absolute conviction that whatever I say has been read by the Gulchers!--a play on myself.
    From Where is Circuit Guy. It had to do with how a person takes criticism of himself, and devolved into when to use kindness and respect and when to say exactly what you mean.
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